Managing Your Emotions Fertility Journey

Step 4: Managing your emotions

Step 4: Managing your emotions

Try to maintain fun on your fertility journey

Trying for a baby can bring a roller coaster of emotions. Couples who are trying to conceive are often told to ‘just relax’ or ‘think positively’ and it will happen. This can be very upsetting, even though it has been said with good intentions. If only it were that simple! The relationship between stress and fertility is complex and still unclear. There are lots of studies that look at the effects of stress in couples TTC and the results are variable.

Trying for a baby can be a stressful experience, which can also have a negative impact on your relationship and your sex drive. We believe it is very important for everyone to recognise that this is absolutely normal; be kind to yourselves, plan nice things and keep having fun. It is also important to find your own personal way to manage stress. This may involve joining a support group or taking some time out to do some exercise or an activity that you enjoy. Making sure you get enough sleep can also help to reduce stress. But if you do feel it is getting too much, we recommend seeking some expert support.

Pressure to perform

Whilst understanding that timing is key, baby making can become routine, with couples feeling that sex has become a chore. This can make you feel like you have lost the previous excitement and in addition men often feel pressure to perform. It is normal for it to take up to a year to get pregnant. So, our advice is to keep sex as fun and stress-free as possible because it may not happen straight away.

  • NHS. Infertility Diagnosis. [Online] 2017. [Cited: 18 July 2019.]

  • Last updated 27/09/2019    Next review due 27/09/2022