‘Just relax’: Couples who are TTC are often told to ‘just relax’ or ‘think positively’ and it will happen. This can be very upsetting, even though it has been said with good intentions. If only it were that simple!
The relationship between stress and fertility is complex and still unclear. There are lots of studies that look at the effect of stress in couples TTC and the results are variable. Trying for a baby can be a stressful experience, which can also have a negative impact on your relationship and your sex drive.
We believe it is very important for everyone to recognise that this is absolutely normal and to be kind to yourselves, plan nice things and keep enjoying yourselves. It is also important to find your own personal way to manage stress. This may be an activity like yoga or mindfulness, or perhaps you would like to download an app to support you think more positively or manage your emotions. The NHS app library is a great resource to find NHS approved tools that can support your health and wellbeing. Making sure you get enough sleep can also help to reduce stress. But if you do feel it is getting too much, we recommend seeking some expert support.
Pressure to perform: Whilst understanding that timing is important, baby making can become routine, with couples feeling that sex can become a chore. This can make you feel like you have lost the previous excitement, and in addition, men often feel pressure to perform.
Remember it is normal for it to take up to 1 year to get pregnant. So, it is really important to keep sex as fun and stress-free as possible because it may not happen straight away.
1. NHS. Infertility Diagnosis. [Online content accessed 01.12.20] - https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/infertility/diagnosis
Last updated 29/01/2021 Next review due 29/01/2024