Mother’s Day is fast approaching and for many women who are trying to conceive (TTC) it can be a tough time of year. There are lots of reminders and seeing other mothers being celebrated can be upsetting. It can be tiring ‘pretending’ that everything is ok when inside you may be struggling. Remember it’s ok if you don’t feel ok. You may find it helps to open up to your loved ones and confide in them about how you are feeling; tell them the things that you are finding difficult so they know how they could help you. Maybe it’s giving you more space and allowing you to dip out of certain family events. It could even be as simple as managing that pushy Auntie who insists on asking when you are going to have a family every time you see her.
At times like this, it may help to focus on a bit of self-love. Be kind to yourself, avoid triggers that may upset you and do things that may help you feel better. Here are some ways to help you manage your emotions this Mother’s Day period.
Give yourself a break
You may have told yourself that you’d have good news to share by next Mother’s Day and unfortunately this may not have happened. Remember that everyone’s journey is different and try not to compare your path to others.
Taking some time out can be a great way to recharge your emotional batteries, alongside doing something that keeps you busy and your mind occupied.
A little retail therapy or a pamper day could be just the lift you need to help you feel a little bit more positive this Mother’s Day.
Focus on your own mum
If you have a good relationship with your own mum, try to make the day all about her. Do something together that you both enjoy and be thankful for all the things she does for you.
Just say, no thank you
Don’t feel pressured to accept every invitation you receive. It’s ok to say no to some things. If people know what you’re going through, they will understand.
Avoid the media
Social media, TV and even radio are all advertising Mother’s Day, so take a break from the constant reminders. Scrolling through page after page of Insta ready mums cuddling up to their mini-me is definitely something to be avoided. Put on a film or read that book you’ve been meaning to pick up
Talk to someone
The old saying ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’ might feel daunting but opening up to someone close to you can really help you manage your emotions. You may prefer talking to others who are in the same situation as you through online forums or chat rooms. It can be reassuring to know you’re not alone and the way you’re feeling is perfectly normal.
However you choose to spend this Mother’s Day, do it with your own mental wellbeing at the forefront of your mind. Know that you’re not alone, take support from your loved ones and above all else be kind to yourself. If you are going through IVF or know someone who is, the IVF Positivity Planner could be a great tool to help manage emotions by guiding you through your IVF journey and helping you to remain positive on a day-to-day basis.